10 important relationship goals

I’ve seen #RelationshipGoals that range from
very cute to sickeningly exaggerated (most are the latter, to be honest). In the beginning, this relationship goals meme was realistic – pictures of happy couples holding hands while walking in the snow, cuddling and watching a movie together, or sleeping with an adorable puppy. But at this point, relationship goals have become completely over-the-top. From long, dramatic declarations of love on an Instagram picture to cuddling in positions that seem extremely uncomfortable , some relationship goals make me want to roll my eyes until forever. At this point, it feels like those #RelationshipGoals pictures or actions that get all the likes and shares aren’t even authentic – it feels like couples are doing this stuff to get attention and 15 minutes of Internet fame. Does that sound cynical and bitter? Maybe, but I can’t help but feel like people care more about looking like #goals than actually being #goals. I oftentimes find that the couples who feel the need to post about their love every day for all to see are the couples who are trying to over-
compensate for something (maybe their actual
unhappiness). here are some things you should REALLY strive for when dating someone. Because you can make any relationship look amazing online, but that doesn’t mean it truly is –these things do, though. 10 important
relationship goals you actually want:

1. Hearing your BF’s phone go off and not feeling
the immediate urge to look at it.

With all of the ways someone could cheat on you these days, it’s understandable to be nervous about what your S.O. is doing on their phone while you’re not looking. Or, it’s normal to feel that way when you first start dating. But once you’ve established trust, you should no longer
spend time being concerned about who that text they just got is from.

2. Being able to go a few days without seeing each other and not feeling totally freaked out about it.

You know you’re in a good place when you can go a few days without seeing your S.O., and although you miss each other, it’s not the end of the world. This past year, I went to Spain for a week without my boyfriend. I missed
him and he missed me, but we didn’t spend the whole time trying to talk or crying about how much we missed each other. It’s so important to be able to have your own lives and do your own things sometimes. Don’t get me wrong, it’s also important to experience things together, but if
you’re too dependent on each other, that’s not good.

3. Getting into a fight and realizing that fight
doesn’t automatically mean you’re going to breakup.

When you first start dating someone, getting into an argument with them makes you feel all sorts of nervous about whether or not the relationship will end because of it. After you’ve been together for a while, you realize that
little arguments every once in a while are normal and aren’t the end of everything. That sounds depressing, but it’s actually where you want to be.

4. Going out with your friends and not being
bombarded by texts from him asking what you’re doing.

You know what’s not cute? Trying to hang out with your friends during a girl’s night but having to field 20 different texts from your boyfriend who is freaking out because he’s not with you. You know what is cute? Having
a fun night out and then texting your BF afterwards to chat.

5. Not feeling the need to text each other 24/7.

Speaking of texting, you should WANT to get to the point in your relationship where you two don’t feel the need to be tethered to your phone. Again, it’s important to do your own thing without being totally dependent on each other.

6. Hanging out but just sitting next to each other
doing your own thing and feeling comfortable.

There’s something really nice about a hangout sesh with your boyfriend that involves you reading a book while he watches his show. It’s nice to be able to do your own thing while still being together. Of course, every single hangout
shouldn’t be you guys doing this, but you know what I mean.

7. Not feeling like you have to have sex every time you see each other.

Sex is not the only part of a relationship.
It’s nice to get to a point where you don’t feel like you HAVE to do it every single time you see each other – you do it if you want!

8. Leaving your phone laying around because you know he/she isn’t going to go through it.

Worrying about your boyfriend going through your texts because he’s jealous? Not cool. I see a lot of #relationshipgoals posts like, “when he doesn’t have a passcode on his phone” or “when he asks you to check his new text instead of checking it himself.” To me, this seems more like a #goal for the girl to be able to go through his
stuff when she wants than a #goal of trust.

9. Not feeling pressured to write about how great your relationship is on social media because you don’t need to.

There’s nothing wrong with letting the world know how you feel about bae. But when you feel the need to make a spectacle of your relationship every single day, it seems like you’re over-compensating. It seems like it’s too much. Relationships are about two people, not about the attention two people can get by making others jealous.

10. Not even having to ask if they’re coming with
you to an event because you know they will.

You were invited to a party? Your S.O. will probably be with you. Got a plus one to a wedding? No need to stress about that. Your significant other doesn’t have to do EVERYTHING with you, but it’s nice to know they probably will if you need them to.
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